Welcome to my blog, The Ruminating Mum.
As I sit here, writing this, I’m not even sure if I will manage to pluck up the courage to post what I write, but for now, I will start with just a little bit about myself.
My name is Tamzin, Tamz for short. I am late-diagnosed with ADHD, potentially undiagnosed AuDHD, which I think, more often than not, is the root cause of my struggles.
I am also a single mum of two children: a daughter and son, both under the age of 7.”
You can probably tell from the title of my blog that I am a deep thinker and have, unfortunately, spent most of my life ruminating and worrying my way through to now.
I have more recently been trying really hard to be better and seek help for my anxiety through talking therapies. I also tried medication for anxiety, but for me, personally, the side effects outweighed the good.
Through my healing process, I sought solace in writing down how I was feeling.
Writing feels good—especially when something is weighing on my mind—as a way to find a sense of release.
After writing my thoughts and feelings of the day, I found myself looking over what I had written and trying to think of it from another’s perspective.
By doing so, I was able to better understand what was happening—not to excuse my thoughts or behaviours, but to try to use that to show up better next time.
I mean, let’s face it, no matter how hard we strive as parents to be perfect for our children, we’re going to get it wrong from time to time.
What matters is how we show them that we can apologise when we’re wrong, show them how to work through OUR big emotions, and strive to be better—not only for them, but for ourselves and others around us.
I’m going to lay it out there that I am in no way a professional. I have never trained in any way that would allow me to say I am qualified to help people. I am definitely not that.
I suppose I hope that, just by showing up and talking about my experiences, no matter how big or small, maybe someone reading this might find the courage to talk about their own struggles as a parent.
I firmly believe that talking openly is the key to healing, and if someone doesn’t want to hear it, then find the one person who will, even if that is a stranger at the other end of a helpline.
But hey, maybe you’re happy with how you are, and you just like to read blogs; that’s totally fine, too. Hi.
I will kindly ask, though, that people keep this a safe space. I will not accept hurtful or hateful comments.
I am just a mum, a human being, trying to get through life and parenting without a manual, just like everyone else, and with very little support.
If you can do one thing today, be kind. Please. That’s all I ask.
The Ruminating Mum 